Any Given Sunday: Superbowl Sunday Edition

"We know that all things work for good for those that love God, who are called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28

I have been thinking a good deal about this verse lately, as it relates to something I hear from people quite frequently.  Heather and I will often have people tell us that "God gives special needs children to special people, and to those who are equipped to handle it."  This may be surprising to some of you, but I don't believe that.  I don't want to offend any of you, if you do.  I am just explaining what I have come to believe through my experiences, and through my understanding of the Romans Bible verse I shared above. 
My experience started in the Vanderbilt Hospital Neonatal Intensive Care Unit, or as many people call it, the NICU.  In the NICU, there were many children with all different kinds of issues.  Some of the issues ranged from very moderate to quite severe.  Many of these children, as you can imagine, are children with special needs.  The surprising thing to Heather and me was how empty the NICU was for visitors, especially on the weekends.  We figured the NICU would be packed with a bunch of parents visiting their kids on the weekends.  I mentioned this to one of the NICU nurses, and she told us that unfortunately many of the children are in the NICU because of choices that their parents made.  This was disheartening to me.  I by no means want to imply that many of the parents of the babies in the NICU are bad parents.  I don't know their stories, and who am I to judge?  The question that kept arising is that if God truly gives children with special needs to those who are equipped to handle it, why were there so many examples of parents who weren't?  I was really confused by the whole thing, until I got some clarity after reading Romans 8:28.
Romans 8:28 says that all things work for good, but it doesn't say that all things ARE good.  God can make good out of any situation, but he doesn't create every bad situation in our lives.  We are good at creating those many times, all on our own.  He gave us free will.  So here is what I have come to believe.  God will make good things come of our situation with Mikayla, and he already has because we love him.  I don't believe God only gives special needs children to those who are equipped to handle it, and I will tell you it doesn't make me feel any better when you tell me this.  I would rather hear you say that God will bring great things about in our and her life, if we continue to love and trust in him and his plan for our lives.